SeanCody: Robert

lovelivelife says:

I was really trying not to comment on this. I mean those with racist and prejudice ideology won’t change so there’s really no point in responding to them. Same thing goes for those who post homophobic and transphobic comments. I’m referring to those idiots who love to post comments about models having “tranny eyebrows” and those who immediately start calling fem models pronouns that are typically associated with women, i.e.; she, her, etc. Yeah if you thought you were just making a joke you’re wrong because with comments like those you’re being both homophobic(yes you can be gay/bi and be homophobic too) and transphobic. Yes MOST trans people don’t like the word tranny, it’s equivalent to the n-word and the f-word. Also telling someone(gay/str8/bi,white/black, male/female) they have “tranny eyebrow” to insult them is wrong. You’re equating trans people and things linked to trans people as something bad. Just like most gays don’t like when people say something is gay. Associating the word gay with something bad is wrong and hurtful to gay people. Associating the “style” of eyebrows that you THINK trans people have(or you think people who do drag have) is wrong and hurtful to trans people. With ALL the discrimination that our trans brothers and sisters face, the last thing they need is to have other people within the LGBT community discriminating against them as well.

Now consider this the last time I’m going to make this^ comment on WayBig. I’ve tried to make people realize the error in their ways but all that led to were people telling I’m being “overly sensitive”, I need to change my username to “Get-A-Life”, and I need to come off my “high horse”. BTW I’m on that high horse because I don’t go around being racist, homophobic/heterophobic,or transhpobic to anyone.

Now as for what’s taking place here, it can all be summed up with one word and that’s ignorance. Now I won’t deny that in a lot situations people can’t control who they’re attracted to, I mean that’s obvious for those of us who are in the LGBT community. However, not being able to control what sex you are attracted to is one thing but race is a whole ‘nother beast. I like a lot of the other people commenting think it’s odd/wrong when someone doesn’t find an entire race attractive. I find it hard to believe that you not being attracted to that certain race doesn’t come down to prejudice. For a lot of us minorities: Prejudice = Racist and it’s not the place for a white person to deny those feelings. You can’t deny those feeling. It’s also not your place to tell a minority that they’re playing the race card. All you’re doing is trying to mitigate the feelings of that minority and that’s wrong. That’s oppression. That means you’re being the same thing that you’re trying so hard to deny… A racist. Commenter accuses you of racism and you respond to that by telling them to “stop pulling the race card” aka something that only a white person can say. You’re using your power to oppress a minority and imply that their feeling aren’t valid. Sorry that equals racism. Try to stop yourself from using that term “race card”.

Now what needs to happen is: 1. People need to start being more sensitive and socially aware of their comments. YES! Even on a porn blog. This being a porn blog doesn’t give you the right to act like a total ass. 2. Those with these racial preferences whether it be you don’t find a certain race attractive(I think this is really problematic) or it just takes a lot for you to be attracted to certain race, i.e.; you saw a black guy at the gym who does nothing for you but you saw a black guy who looks like Shemar Moore from Criminal Minds at a restaurant who drove you crazy.(I think this is a little more healthy) But the bottom line is you need to evaluate the type of people you’re attracted to and realize why you have a racial preference. The media tells us: that white is beauty, that white is good, that white pure, and white clean. Basically everything good. The media tells us: that black is dirty, that black is death, that black is evil, that black is hazardous/toxic, etc. Basically everything bad. You get the picture? I bet this has something to do with a lot of your racial preferences. Take the time to evaluate and see why you aren’t attracted to that particular race. Because of if you say it’s physical features(i.e. large noses/big lips) you’re implying that all black people have those physical features, which isn’t the case because the funny thing is I look at some of you guys reactions to the models. I see a black model get posted and receive mostly negative comments. Then the following day a white model is posted and receives mostly positive comments. Both models have very similar physical features but they get totally opposite reactions. Take Robert for example I guarantee you I can find white models with similar physical features who received positive reviews. So why the difference in reaction? Is it the poses where different? No. Lets face it most sites do similar posing. I know a lot of the people who comment, myself included, thinks it all comes down to race. And instead of arguing with us and telling us to stop pulling “race card”(seriously stop using this term), prove us wrong by be careful while you comment on ethnic models, i.e.; Don’t say “I wish black guys knew how to handle their pubic hairs.” or “His dick looks gross”. I know commenter who made the latter comment explained his comment by saying he’s just not a fan of large dicks. Well “gross” is a interesting way to say you don’t like large dicks. <– Now this person may be the furthest thing from being a racist but the fact of the matter is you have to be considerate when commenting on minority models. Using gross probably isn't the best thing to do.*refer to #1 on my list* 3. Now I know a lot of my white counterparts will have issues with #2. They might go on a rant about being too PC(Political Correct) because of course being politically correct is the worst thing in the world.(sarcasm) Honestly, instead of complaining about people being too PC, you should start complaining that people aren't PC enough because what you call political correctness I call being considerate of the feeling of others. Everyone remember doing that in elementary school? I think they taught us to be respectful of other at such an early age for a reason. Minorities in this country have been through a lot and it's very unfortunate that the actions that took place so many years ago still effect us but they do. So that's why I can and do feel that people should be socially aware when posting comments on a minority model. I'm not saying you have to like the model but I'm saying you should reconsider call his dick gross or commenting about his race's "inability" to manage their pubes. Just be carefully that the comment you make isn't in bad taste. I don't want this to seem like I'm attacking white people. I can honestly say that I don't have a racist bone in my body. I love white people, I love all people regardless of their ethnicity. But it's a fact that minorities were oppressed in this country for hundreds of years and although things are 100x better than what they use to be, minorities will still be able to get away with or demand things that whites could never, i.e.; Be socially aware/considerate when commenting on minority models, don't say certain words(I personally don't agree with this. No one should use the n-word unless it's in the classroom setting). Minorities can also ask and want affirmative action(I know it's controversial but it's true). And if you think I'm full of it and I just want my reparations lol, I can point you in the direction of several white scholars online who will tell you the same thing. I know, I know it really sucks to be white(sarcasm again). It's just a fact that minorities are afforded certain rights if you will, that whites are not afforded. Just think of the things I just told you about as a way to counterbalance the advantage that whites already have in this country. I know some idiot is thinking "This sucks. And this stupid crybaby n-word is full of it." lol You know something I always think when I hear white people complain about all the advantages that minorities have, i.e.; affirmative action, the ability to demand certain words not be said, and in this case demand that people not be too disrespectful/or careless with the words they use when commenting on minority models that appear on a PORN blog… I usually think that those white people complaining should invent a time machine, go back in time, and a)convince their ancestors NOT to have slaves/oppress minorities or b)they can go back totally rewrite history and make whites be the ones who were made slave/oppressed for hundreds of years. But last time I checked a time machine had not been invented yet and most white people wouldn't want to live the lives of any oppressed minority. I mean if there are any white people who want to trade places so they can benefit from affirmative action and play the "race card"(don't forget what I told you about that term. stop using it. especially when you're trying to deny that your racist because the moment you use that term you immediately become the thing you're trying to deny) I'm sure there are many minorities who want to benefit from your white privilege.

White(now i'm saying white but i'm well aware that all the people guilty of posting racist and racially insensitive comments aren't all white) users on this site have to realize how sensitive of an issue this is. Who wants to be looked at as unattractive? No one. So imagine how the minorities who are being told they're entire race is unattractive or less attractive. And if you can't imagine how it feels. I'll tell you, it sucks. A lot of the minorities will not admit it but it probably really hurts. As if the lack of representation of minorities isn't hurtful enough, minorities have to deal with the few ethnic models that do appear on a mainstream site being berated with malicious comments. I've seen someone comment, I believe it was that internet troll who decided to disrespect the president of the United States by combining his name with that disgusting S.O.B. Osama, about black users being able to criticize the white models for having pale skin and flat asses. Honestly, I haven't seen too many comments like that I can be 100% sure it came from black users on WayBig but that's really not important. What's important is the fact that you can see white models pretty much everyday on WayBig and the comments are pretty fair unless the model is fem(talking about you homophobes and transphobes) or have tattoos. But on the rare occasion you have a black model you can guarantee the comments will be pretty negative. They'll be people calling him Latino, Puerto Rican, etc. because they refuse to believe a black model can be attractive unless he's Latin/biracial/etc. Basically people who commented negatively and were called out on it need to put themselves in the other person's shoes. What if you were the minority? What if it felt like months before you saw models that look like you being represented? What if some porn sites went years with out showing someone that looked like you? What if the only site you could go to and see people who look like you were these low budget sites that are so stereotypical and borderline offensive("Thug" porn, "White Guy on Little Obedient Asian" porn, "Big Black Cock Little White ________" porn) Hopefully, you realize how all these things could affect a minority and why some minorities may have such an issue with you being so brash when critiquing minority models, especially when a big part of that critique is based off the color of that models skin or physical attributes sometimes associated with a particular race. Basically being told people who look like you aren't sexually appealing sucks and it causes the type of reaction you see in the comments.

Ultimately we all need to stop subscribing to one grand idea of beauty. This western idea of beauty has ruined us. Usually an ethnic model can't even make on a mainstream site if their physical features aren't the closest thing to western idea of beauty(small nose, small lips, light skin, straight hair, wide eyes, etc.) Instead of working to find someone who meets this western idea of beauty or fighting to justify why you only like people who meet this western idea of beauty, you should be working/fighting to appreciate all forms of beauty. Why does an Asian person have eyes like a white person to be considered beautiful, why does a black guy have to have pubes like a white person to be acceptable, or why does a white guy have to have a small button nose to be beautiful. This really does affect everyone, including white people. I mean god forbid a white model have a wider nose, really textured hair, or a slight slant in his eyes.. he's automatically labeled unattractive. Why? Because he doesn't fit those strict guidelines that the western world has dictated to be standard of beauty.

I've pretty much wrote a thesis. lol And I know some people are going to try to bash me for writing so much but I don't care. This is the last time I'm going to comment on shit like this. From now on the only post you'll see from me is commenting on how good a model looks. The negativity is so unnecessary. I doubt many models look at this site because of the comments but I'm sure if they did they'll find the comments freaking ridiculous and uncalled for. Sorry saying someones dick is gross or disgusting is not necessary, it's rude and hurtful.(btw not trying to pick on the person who commented on the models. your comment is just the one I remember, so I keep using it as an example.

Okay, I'm really done now. lol I'm guessing this is the most comments any model has gotten on WayBig and I'm sure this is the longest comment anyone has post.(I'll be waiting for my plaque in the mail) lol

Again this is the last time I'm commenting on this because I'm sure for a lot of you, all of this will go right over your head and in one ear out the other for the rest. But it doesn't matter because I feel good knowing I don't house so much ignorance and prejudice in me. Trust me the person being discriminated against will always be happier than the racist/homophobe/transphobe doing the discriminating(In this case it's more like the person writing the rude and racist/prejudice comments. And making several accounts to do so. lol)

Well I got everything off my chest, hence this essay of a comment. Now I can truly wash my hand of the issue and go back to enjoying all the hot guys, including Robert.

p.s. After typing all of this no spell check, grammar check,or second read through was do… So done try to insult me by pointing out spelling errors or bad grammar.. You'll just look like even more of an ass. :)

porndog says:

May 10, 2011 at 12:07 am

Thanks for your comment. I really enjoyed reading it. Someone posted we should chill out; that it’s just a porn blog. But that’s exactly the problem in this country. If we can’t have a conversation about race, then we’ll never grow to the point to where it’s no big deal. And if we’re not having it here, then where should we have it? At the very least, we all know where we stand, and maybe, just maybe, someone will have said something to make you think about your own views.

Thanks, lovelivelife. As a person of color, your comments are very much appreciated. :)

lovelivelife says:

May 10, 2011 at 1:49 am

@Porndog
No problem. Thanks for reading all of that and looking passed all the typos.